I figure the "Soulmate chant" was *just* the first bit.
In this case the challenge was for "right to court". There might be Other reasons to challange..

No requirement that she Accept the courting .
... I thought the stuff startin "maiden" was made up for this event,
Any human bard could do that so it would be Easy for Savah to give a nudge to our girl


I personally always thought that recognition had something to do with "Gonna have one or more Children with this one"... Kids being so rare in elf lands, the spirits of 'elves to be', 'take a hand' in getting themselves born, to make sure their parents hook-up.
And you might be "fated to have kids" with more than one.
If that is so, you might, (over the course of a *fabulously long life* end up recognizing more than one partner


I seem to remember *Some* elves as being polly--- so perhaps there is Multi-recognition, too.

I am personally certain there are gay elves, we just don't *see* them yet